SW writes:

Over the last five months I have approached my employer several times about my responsibilities and requesting a higher salary. I believed it was done with positive communication and respectfully. I’m feeling a barrier or resistance. Although it was difficult to ask, I put it out there because it is deserved. Can you advise if I am being too assertive or not assertive enough? Anything on my end that may be blocking this additional money flow. There are excess funds available in my place of employment. Big thanks and appreciation for your guidance!

The guide’s response:

Yes, she must continue because this is her growth.  This is what is at hand for her.  She needs to ask for herself as it is all about her coming out of that place of hiding that she has been in for some time.  She is a little mouse sometimes and that is not who she is at all anymore and needs to come out, to say what her worth is and to expect it.  It has been taken a bit the wrong way by this supervisor as a threat and it has nothing to do with that at all, but that is how she sees it.  If SW places it in a way as this is what I must do, I am not doing this against you, I am doing this because I must.  It is not about saying she is needy or a victim.  She wants her worth.  She has worked and it is hers to be held.

So is there some way she can do it in a less assertive way?

She is very technical and has presented it very technically and this threatens this supervisor because she is least technical of all beings.  She has nothing written down and doesn’t like ever to be asked of anything.  The supervisor is afraid that she would be surpassed.  Place it in a non-threatening way: I beseech you again, you must give me a direct answer please.

Thank you.  I’ll pass this on to her.