PF asks, “Are there are any words or suggestions to help my friend BBR with his struggles with decisions about work and relationships? Do you have any suggestions to improve our relationship?
Thank you.”

Dear PF, you must understand that the reason for this situation right now, is not only that your friend needs to grow, but you as well.  Your relationship is often hiding, in the guise of whatever is acceptable to talk about, leaving you feeling quite empty. You know that your friend is his own worst enemy. But you find it very difficult to find the words to express it.  Perhaps, if you use yourself as an example, by talking about your feelings it will help him or her (whichever you wish to call this being now).  This being has been very…well, a difficult one, a difficult path.  But, unfortunately, the struggle is self-imposed.  Be of light.  Be of love.