H writes:
Dear guides.. I have read that conception takes place in ‘spirit’ prior to the physical act, and that children choose their parents. I wonder is there a child ‘waiting’ for me to meet their other chosen parent in this life-time? My confusion is: do some children know that their choice of parents will not give them the opportunity to all live together in love and support?  Or is what happens post-conception not predestined?


My dearest H, yes, it is truth that conception as you might understand it is set in process long before the physical domain opens to it. Thus, it leaves the variable of chance where it may occur, or may not occur.  This does not change the need for at some point this being to be a child of the being to which they come (whether it be mother or the father).  Each situation is different, and it is not always important for its promise, one always being more important than the other.  There are also circumstances where beings choose to come through certain beings but their promise may be very small such as the giving the child to opportunity to come into the physical domain.  As to knowing what occurs after attaining the physical body, it is truly the  element of chance and the attitude under which the child is raised.  All these are variables that do not have to do with the promise.  Each individual is separate and different.  Know well that when one comes through a certain being, there is nearly always a promise with one of the parents. As to whether the situation stays one way or another, this has very  little to do with the promises of being with one of the parents.

Joanna:  So a child or a being who wants to come in to the world would choose or make a promise with maybe the mother but perhaps not the father.   It could be any father?

Guide:   Yes.  It is possible.  It also may bed that it the promise is with both and that what is created with all three creates growth in other ways.  In other  patterns the being will choose one thing or another.

Joanna:  And so if a being chose to come through as a child to a mother and the mother was not able to have the child either due to physical reasons, or decided to take birth control, or never met a man she wanted to have a child with, what would happen?
Guide:   There are often many opportunities in spirit for a being to choose another to complete other promises.  That that remains with that one will remain and perhaps in another existence, another dimension, it can be completed.


Joanna:   So the choice is there, and there is always the opportunity for that to happen in another lifetime?
Guide:  Yes.  Very new bright entities who do not have a lot of evolution in their beings can choose to come through many different ones.  It is as if opportunities start to open up all over and they will choose one perhaps in haste but it will still offer growth.
Joanna:  So they can be born with any of a number of mothers or fathers?  The promise is just to come through the physical?

Guide:   Yes.  The desire to grow is strong even in the very, very new.  The ancient ones will often wait.


I know this dear one feels that the mate must be perfect.  Trust that there are many ways to the truth, to that that needs to be.  The feeling that this being is waiting in the wings, a desire to hold, can be met through many ways in your world now.  Do not run away from any of them.  I know you have your society’s rules and regulations but the depth of love within this being is very strong.  Allow it to flow. Allow it to be.