I would like to ask about my boyfriend’s daughter. Her parents are not getting along very well, and I am concerned that she is feeling the effects of the negativity between her parents. What does she need right now? Is there anything I can do or say to help her?
Thank you so much for this blog and for your wonderful guidance. Much love and gratitude, Em.
The guide’s response:
Oh blessed wise one, yes, you do see the truth. And in your wonderful, gentle way you can find a way to speak to her. I know at first you did not want to see this, but now it is very clear to you that their turmoil has affected this blessed being. Speak to all that are present, all that will listen, of her needs. Shelter her if possible from them. Never speak against either parent, but try to help her to understand their anger, their difficulty, that their element of learning at this time, has nothing to do with her. That she is a beautiful creation, perhaps their purpose for being together—to create such a wonder.
You are in a very difficult position, dearest one, seeing this and yet feeling unable to speak. For it is, perhaps you think, not your place. But being an ancient one and knowing and seeing, puts you in the place of being responsible—to help this one grow, to find light and love.
Drink deep of the strength that you be. Stand strong and speak in a calm clear voice that they must not speak harshly to one another, that they must not speak about one another’s pain in front of this child. And that their actions have filtered through to her. And of course she will feel responsible for their pain. You must tell them this, for it is only through their actions that this can stop. Of course, for healing themselves they must proceed in this way. They must show her that although choices can be made that perhaps can cause harm, also choices can also be made to help heal.
Words, always filled with love, can be communicated to this child. Don’t be afraid to talk about feelings and helping, about being together. You are a blessed being. Thank you for seeing. Thank you for being.