Question:

I really am down in spirits and I need someone wise to tell me what is good about myself. I feel I’m not a good mom when I see other moms and perhaps I’m not a strong enough person to deal with life, focusing on negatives or worrying about so many things. What’s good about me? I feel inferior so many times whether it is looks, being a mom, being a good person. Help me. I really need some encouragement. I need to hear about my strengths. Am I a good mom? Please tell me about me. I don’t know my good side! How do I overcome my mind? What am I good at as a person?

Spirit Guide’s Reply:

Blessed one, what mother that doesn’t have moments of wondering if she is giving that blessed child enough, or if it’s right for that child. If a mother didn’t have those moments, I would say there was something to worry about. For every mother has moments of wondering and questions, because it is the one path you walk on that you draw from within. And if there be a moment within from perhaps a physical experience, or a past life experience, or an understanding that you have, that you must draw on to be for this child.

The natural instinct is to love completely and to give life, nourishment, everything to the child. But in your wonderful wisdom you know there must be more. You question what you draw on from your past. Is that what you want for your child? You question what others do give their children. Is that what you want for your child? It’s not about material things. It’s one of those elusive, amazing things that love supplies.

It’s the knowing, the knowing what a cry might mean, or what a silence might mean. And that which can only be found by being with the child, seeing them, watching them. For their energy is part of your energy, and it is your job to bring them to a place where they can be strong enough to stand at the edge of the nest and fly, to soar like the most magnificent eagle. And yes, it is a big job. And yes, it’s important to think about it—that a mother is a human being, a spirit in body, that teaches, that loves, that grows.

The greatest thing the child learns is from watching you. And that’s what you are questioning my dear. You question that you’re not happy. You question that you’ve made choices that you don’t feel you would make now. You worry about your relationship and wonder what that is teaching your child.

These are the things that are important to think about. And you do know, in the depth of your heart, where you live, where that perfection and beautiful light is, the survivor, the free will, that beautiful voice isn’t being heard. It’s not being heard by you and so it’s not being heard by your child.

Oh the burdens that lie upon you now, my dear, are very heavy. I’m not surprised that you feel frightened. But let’s dissolve that fear into love. Yes there are burdens on you but you would not change the fact that you’re a mother. You love the fact that you have this amazing life. And you will in every part of you choose what is right for that one. And that perhaps is why this one has come to be with you. To teach you to choose the right thing, for you and for the child.

Oh promises go many ways. It isn’t always the parent teaching the child; often it is the child teaching the parent. Bless you for asking. Bless you for feeling, even if it is sad or somewhat confused. Feel it, embrace it, and turn it into the light and love of who you be. For my child you are a brilliant light and you have much to do and many to teach. Bless you.

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