Listening to your physical being as a way towards healing confusion and pain

HL writes, “I have had one broken marriage earlier and am separated in the second marriage too, for the last 2 years now. All this time, there has been lot of hurt, pain and clashes due to verbal exchanges and communications, with my second husband. Although my husband has been persistent to get me back into his life, but experiencing his ways of living, drinking habit, emotional outbursts, I am very scared to re-unite. Please guide me if divorce is the only solution or is there any chance of reconciliation?


The gentle being is confused as to whom is asking for.  Perhaps that has always been the case.  The question put out is will the ex, ever get control and peace within life, or will the self get peace and control in life.  I feel the confusion terribly, dearest.  Is divorce ever an answer, is it the freedom?  Only after much struggle.  You listen very intently to all others and find it very hard to come to your choice.  It is as if you do not have a road map.  But you do not even have a space of who to be.  It is right here in your mind you ask: how do I get to this?  How did this happen?  Will there ever be peace?  Will you ever make a choice for peace?  

The back and forth is not good for you, my dear.  Your body tries very hard to tell you and it needs to be paid great attention to.  There is much stress in your physical being and that is what you must address.  Stop all of your thinking.  Pay attention to your physical being as it is trying very hard to speak to you right now.  When you find healing then start to look outside of your being.  There is way too much stress.

How should  she pay attention to her physical being?

Firstly, by listening to it.  The tightness in the abdomen, the tightness across the chest, the inability sometimes to take a deep breath, feeling of dizziness, the inability to think through a whole thought.  These things are all present.  Sometimes going to a professional will help if the professional is given enough time to do so to help her to see and feel and to address the rest of it.  The world irritates this one.  Translated it means: I am not coping right now.  Pay attention to that.  Seek someone, some place, where you can speak of your inner fears, confusion and pain.  Then, you will heal part of you and then look to others.  But firstly, your own.

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  1. Funtastic September 22, 2010 at 1:48 am - Reply

    Greetings Ladies and Guides, thank you for this wonderful service that you provide.

    I have several questions that I seek help on.
    1.Cori has serious medical problems. Is there anything I can tell her to help her to heal from her illnesses? How can she obtain the healing that she needs?

    2. I wanted to give my brother something for his birthday but then I remembered how I was hurt by him and then became reluctant to give the gift. Conflict arose in me because it seemed that this reluctance went against having “unconditional” love for another. It was like since he hurt me, I could not freely show him love. I felt inhibited. I did not want him to think how he treated me was “ok” and I wanted him to feel the hurt that I had felt. I know I have little control over how he chooses to feel but I still wanted him to feel hurt. How can I resolve this conflict I have experienced?

    3. I hear that there are not enough black men for black women. I see some black men increasingly choosing to exclusively date non-black women, rejecting the black woman. How can a black woman best resolve the fear, hurt, and anger she feels as a result of these realities?

    4. I have avoided bringing a child into this world to raise for fear that I would not be able to properly raise the child due to the problems I have had to struggle with. I wanted to make sure I had achieved stability emotionally, financially, and socially beforehand. I would like to have a significant other in my life for the rest of my life and hopefully be able, ready, and confident to bring a child into this world. How can I make this a reality or is my path different given where I stand in my life now?

    Thank you for your help on these matters.

  2. D September 22, 2010 at 7:20 am - Reply

    Can you tell me about my Dad’s health and the best way I can be there for him now. He is not compliant about his meds and critical of western medicine. Was he a physician or a healer in a recent past life?

  3. Joanna September 22, 2010 at 9:11 am - Reply

    Hello Funtastic,
    We’re happy that you find the guides responses to your questions helpful. Many people are now availing themselves of the opportunity to ask questions of the guides. Because of the volume of questions coming through, we ask that people post only one question at a time and wait until the answer has appeared here before posting another question. We will be bringing forward your question number 1 to the guides when we next have the opportunity. Please post the other questions separately at a later date. Thank you for your understanding.
    Joanna

  4. Funtastic November 9, 2010 at 10:31 pm - Reply

    Hello ladies and guides.
    I have avoided bringing a child into this world to raise for fear that I would not be able to properly raise the child due to the problems I have had to struggle with. I wanted to make sure I had achieved stability emotionally, financially, and socially beforehand. I would like to have a significant other in my life for the rest of my life and hopefully be able, ready, and confident to bring a child into this world. How can I make this a reality or is my path different given where I stand in my life now?
    thank you

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