Helping a cat to move on

My cat Maya recently passed on in March of this year. She was 9 years old and I got here when she was only a few weeks old. She was always very anxious with other people and other cats, and this would often result in aggressive behavior. She was always very good with me. I ultimately had to make the decision to have her put down due to this unpredictable behavior.

I just wanted to know if you see her with me at all. I haven’t felt her around me at all and I haven’t had any dreams about her either. I think sometimes that she is angry with me for the decision I made. Are you able to see her and tell me if she is ok?

Your dear cat is definitely ok.  Actually this little one experienced a nervous disorder so that when some people patted her on the neck she reacted defensively.  It was a peaceful, loving thing you did to help her leave. This one is not angry with you. She is around you still and understands the decision you made.   Remember the sweet times you experienced together–this is the important thing.

By | 2017-05-28T12:53:48+00:00 June 8th, 2010|Categories: Pets and animals|0 Comments

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  1. Mochi June 8, 2010 at 8:45 am - Reply

    Hi guys,

    I wanted to know if you could tell me what I can do for my friend A. He is in great turmoil all the time, I wish I knew what I could do to help him to feel at peace? What does he need from me as a friend?

  2. Funtastic June 8, 2010 at 4:29 pm - Reply

    Since babies need to bond to the initial caregiver, the mother, and such failure to bond is devastating and tragic for the child, why is there no automatic natural back up plan to prevent a detachment disorder when this bonding fails due to neglect, abuse, or moving to foster care, or for whatever reason?

    The attachment disorder that results has such a severe impact on the infant’s life through adulthood to the point where, in the severest of cases, there is no conscience or remorse in causing harm to another. It is horrific, a pure evil, that a person suffers and struggles so to find his way with much pain and heartache. What is the initial cause, the evil, that causes a mother to not love her child as needed? I know that that mother’s mother may not have loved her as needed and so on and so forth generationally but what was the initial or primal cause that set off the chain reaction?

    Since this occurrence is so devastating to the child/adult, crippling social bonding throughout the remainder of its life, how can it be prevented and also healed if not prevented? Many times the child growing into an adult has had so many negative experiences following the rejection by the mother that life experiences reinforce the rejection that the child/adult feels. Moreover, the adult grows tired after so many attempts of establishing friendships and those friendships not lasting, of walking on eggshells, not speaking up for fear of angering someone, fearing people, and being misunderstood or flat rejected because of not fitting in.

    Did the spirit know it would experience such a path ahead of birth? I see no good in such a path of attachment disorder. It is pure evil and no good comes from the disorder. It puts the child at an extreme disadvantage at handling life experiences and thriving. How in the world can such a one be expected to behave the same and have the same sense of security as those who were loved? I feel angry, hurt, and sad that this has happened because I know the pain and I know how hard I have tried over the many years but still tend to isolate even though I know it is better to make connections. How can you expect someone to see the world through the eyes of love when their experiences lacked love? How can you expect someone to open her heart when she has been hurt from having it open? It is like a boulder has been chained to the child/adults neck and they are required to run the race with those who do not have an inhibiting boulder around their neck. How can you win????????

    I don’t want to have rage or anger but my challenges placing me at such a disadvantage and in a tremendous struggle while seeing others, who do not have attachment disorder, go on to thrive and do naturally that which comes hard for me, makes me feel angry!

    Since God loves me, why did he not protect me from this? Is he powerless to protect me from such? Do I have unrealistic expectations of God? Is my understanding of God so flawed?

  3. Starr June 12, 2010 at 12:18 am - Reply

    Will I have babies anytime in the next year or two? I met a guy from another country and when we’re together, we’re like teenagers in love. Do you see this relationship working out longterm, and do you think we’ll be able to have kids together? The distance could be an issue, and I’m not sure if my life is stable enough to have a baby. The thought of having a baby with him feels like a fantasy or a dream. I want to know if it could really come true! Gracias and blessings to you!

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