Allowing time to grow and a love to be


Gracie writes, “Throughout my life I struggle with trust and abandonment issues that come up in my relationships with men and I seem to sabotage relationships.  I’ve been involved with this man for over two years and wonder if I am wrong about him.  I am striving to work through this and do not want to sabotage this relationship.  I am unsure if it’s my intuition that is telling me to run, or if I’m falling into self sabotage mode again.  Is this the man I’m to share my life with? Your insight, wisdom and guidance on my issues with this relationship is greatly appreciated.”

Your dear, dear heart  is very confused right now.  Society’s expectations and yours don’t always meet.  Be not afraid to feel your own truth, my dearest one.  I know you want the feeling of companionship and love, the feeling of trust, that one will help and be there for you.  Ask yourself:  is this what I am receiving?  You feel that you have made mistakes in your choices or that you have created situations that have caused chaos.  Do not be so critical of yourself.  There are many situations you have been in the middle of that were not always your choice.  It is time to spend some time on you.  You are a blessed being and you often looked upon yourself  and have not been very loving to it.  Take some time now to love it, to let it breathe, to play, to enjoy.  So many expectations, so much judgments.  Release these.  Be that that you are.  Stay in the moment, dearest.  Ask yourself the questions you need to, but allow room around them and space for them to be answered.  Allow time to grow and a love to be.

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  1. ca roline July 20, 2010 at 3:52 pm - Reply

    hi.. i love this site and will be donatiing (albeit small but it’s what i can..as a thank you for allowing open questions/dialogue..)I truly believe in this and find it fascinating and humbling that there *is* something beyond the veil and our stressful concrete reality (and thank GOD for that:)

    I worry that my kids will have a limited sense of family.. my husband is from a small family and rarely keeps in touch they are rather aloof. My family is large but *severely* dysfunctional. None of us siblings talk to each other (I am the only one who has reached out to anyone…) and my parents not only do not speak with us but do not even know/care to meet their grandkids. It’s beyond abnormal and I don’t even bother explaining it to friends. Anyway.. I’ve given up trying since no one ever responds (nasty divorce, immature parents) and I am the only one in the family with my rather ‘unorthodox’ spiritual beliefs (they think I’m a new age nut:) anyway it’s sad that our kids will have no uncles/aunts or grandparents as part of their lives. Not sure why this is but I have yet to meet anyone who has zero contact with their family. Again, I have done the ‘internal’ work of letting resentments go and trying to start from scratch but no one seems interested in life outside of their own bubble.
    My husband’s father died recently and met our toddler son once (we’ve since had another child) and our son has started saying ‘there’s grandpa’ or ‘it’s grandpa!’ he does not know what a grandpa is since he met my husband’s dad before he was really talking… a year ago.. and my dad is not in his life. So..perhaps he sees his grandfather’s spirit? Not sure. I’ve tried to ‘hear’ my spirit guides and get messages from them to help me (even read books on how to do so) and still no luck. I might not even have a spirit guide for all I know. Anyway, thanks and sorry for the looong rambling question.

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