Advice on overcoming guilt and negativity

Mary asks about guilt. She says, “I am very much in need of advice about guilt. Would you please teach me how to deflect it. I find it is often used as an emotional manipulative tool. I do not wish to absorb it or hold it as pain in my body. Thank you.”

She doesn’t understand that guilt comes from within her. Nobody can deflect something that you stir up within yourself. There is some part of her that feels she needs to beat herself about things and this what she needs to address. What a being says to you and does to you is up to them. It is their choice. And dear one it is your choice to allow to affect you or not. Ask yourself, “Does this affect me? Am I a horrible person?” If you choose to believe that about yourself, then you will create guilt.

Guilt has many reasons. It is not necessarily one of the greatest working parts of the physical world. It is supposed to be about responsibility and choices, not about debts and great weights that you need to carry around forever. This is all about a choice. It is about the old patterns you needs to release yourself from.

Dear Mary, no one is pointing at you; you are pointing at yourself. So the only person who can stop this, is you. You are a beautiful being, a very enlightened being now seeing truly the tasks and the needs for others to say and do certain things. Love them.

If you think of it as a deflection, pour love to them from your heart. You will not be so needing of being guilty if you are busy loving someone else–even those that are so much needing to have all of the attention. You don’t need to verbally love them; you could just pour it from your very center of your being. Fill that space that might be negative with love–love for yourself and love for others.

Every time you feel that twisting tightness that you would call guilt, go into it, relax, think of something most beautiful about the being that you may feel is trying to affect you with guilt. Or about yourself. And then, when the calmness pours over you and you feel yourself filled with light and love, take a deep, deep nursing breath and say “I am perfect.”

That is good advice advice. So often, we carry certain ideas with us of how we are supposed to be.

Yes, I spoke to you about these great religions clashing–it is all that dogma. It is all filtered down now to be big saddle bags that everyone is carrying around, full of stuff that doesn’t fit in their time and their generation. You know, there are entire cultures of people that carry great negativities from hundreds of years previous. What nonsense!

Yes, I see that and they are fighting over them and killing each other.

Yes, what nonsense. It is not even from their time. Remember to stay in the moment. We will speak it to you over and over again. To be present in the life you are in now, to see it, to witness it. To understand you are a piece of perfection. Everything around you is to feed that perfection and make it shine even more.

Who in the heck cares if your grandfather was a… who knows what… and did whatever. All you need to know about him is that he gave you some nice genetics, although sometimes even that has been altered in your world. Bless the physical world and accept it for what it is. It has some weaknesses because it is supposed to–but it is for you to enjoy.

Joanna’s comment:
This response is from a guide that calls himself the professor. He has a very down-to-earth way of talking about things. The part where he asks who cares what your grandfather did is quite amusing to me. We keep hearing about the choices we have in responding to what takes place in our life. Good advice here about staying in the moment and extending love.

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  1. Nancy August 27, 2009 at 8:17 am - Reply

    Good advice. I like the approach of changing the thought pattern.

  2. Kirk August 28, 2009 at 8:26 am - Reply

    Hi,The other night i had a dream. I was in this large hall with lots of activity going on like people or beings everywhere. The ceilings were huge and high and reminded me of a NY train station. I saw a group of freinds I knew and started talking to a blondish hair one. I don’t remember the conversation but it seemed we’re glad to see it each other. Then on the side of him was this dark haired one who looked at me and i looked at him and i couldnt understand if i was recognizing him or there was some connection between us. I start to fly off and my friends were playing a joke on me of some kind because a pillow and blanket appeared in my hands from their thoughts and they were laughing. I see the dark haired guy looking at me and following me. I said happily, “What is your name? I see you all the time?” He said “I’m Todd” as was ascending upwards in flight and he took the blanket and pillow and then i woke up. Can you possibly tell me who is Todd to me, or any insight you could into the dream? If i will know in time that is fine. I just can’t stop thinking about it because of how it felt, I’ve been meditating on it.You validated a past question (from Apollo Zero Jukebox) I had about my soul group and I thank you and your guide for the response.KirkMale

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