I want you to practice standing outside yourself and looking upon your being and loving it, as a mother would a child. Look upon yourself with love and caring. See how beautiful you are, how unique, how special. And as you step back into your body, look upon others as you have looked upon yourself—not judging.
And perhaps instead of using your mind, use your heart to see them. And all the judgment will melt away, and you will simply see them as beings trying to do their best. Love them in their state of growth.
Find love for yourself and you will find love for others.
Your world has it very confused, seeing self love as somewhat egocentric or conceited. Attention to the being, if truly understood in the gentle energy of love, is a wondrous state. For if you love yourself, you will love others with ease, knowing there is no end—for you are filled with love.